Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Note to Younger Self
I love the idea of communicating with my younger self. Lord knows I probably wouldn’t listen to the me of now then, but it still fascinates me to think of the supposed conversation.
First I would tell the young me that overall I’ve been doing a good job! That’s not an easy thing for me to tell myself. I’ve suffered from low self-esteem in my life and I am a worrier. But, in the view from the perch I sit upon currently, I can say with certainty and resolve that life is darn good right now. Great, even! In fact, the journey has been fantastic, too.
Next I would recommend to my younger self to slow down; growing up happens fast enough, but being young is fleeting. I graduated high school a year early and was finished with college by twenty. I do not regret either decision, but I may nudge the younger me to experience more of life’s nectar for young people – travel before children is one thing I can pinpoint missing out on a bit.
I might suggest to my younger self to stop getting perms. I have naturally wavy/curly hair… what was I thinking?! I would also suggest some wardrobe advice, from proper foundations to staying away from obviously trendy fashions, I desperately needed some guidance.
Although difficult to address with myself, I’d want to seriously discuss diet and exercise. By sticking with a healthy combination of both, medical issues wouldn’t be as much as a worry or threat. I’m resigned to a comfortable workout schedule now, and I love to eat healthfully, but if I had been more prone to healthier choices from the start and embraced fun exercise from day one, I wouldn’t be carrying the extra weight I am now… or the worries.
I’d tell myself to interview family members in a sort of formal way so I could learn intimate facts of the people who make up my lineage. As a writer and historian, the people of my past still remain a mystery to me, one I might never uncover. I’ve learned to ask the older generations myriad questions about their youth, the way the world was, and their place in it. History is fascinating when told in the first person, especially when you are related to the storyteller.
I believe I’d tell my younger self to continue to write. Keeping a diary and journals was nearly always a part of my life, yet there were times I stopped. Thankfully I always held my passion for writing near and dear to my heart and now it serves me well daily.
Lastly, I’d tell my younger self to stay the course with that gorgeous and fiery young man who turned my head and stole my heart. It’s true the path has been hellacious at times, but overall the journey has been amazing, full of joy and euphoria, and manageable with him by my side. The fruits of our love, the three children I’d longed for, would follow. And, even after unspeakable grief, happiness would be reached again.
That young girl/woman doesn’t really need to hear any of this from me as she got to this point, but it just seems so cool to think about reaching out to the me of yesteryear and connecting.
What would you tell your younger self? Would you suggest a different life path? Tell the younger you to go for a love who got away? Recommend braces or sunblock or driving lessons?
Looking forward to reading what you would share with your younger self below!
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