tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692958826098214952.post7383746611501033150..comments2024-03-16T05:18:03.024-04:00Comments on Chief 187 Chatter: CommunicationChief 187http://www.blogger.com/profile/09485730643132355212noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692958826098214952.post-65067779843572766562010-09-19T17:19:36.004-04:002010-09-19T17:19:36.004-04:00mmmmm !mmmmm !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692958826098214952.post-9369877961948191882010-09-19T07:25:43.451-04:002010-09-19T07:25:43.451-04:00I totally understand this blog...I find so much of...I totally understand this blog...I find so much of myself in what you said Candice! So #1 take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. I believe the way that the role of a woman has eveolved from day one..we have always been the caretaker, the multi-tasker, the nurturing one...and we don't leave much time or emphasis on our own needs/wants/desires. It's like sometimes I feel I almost "lose myself" in the mix. Between schedules,taking care of the kids/household, working 2 jobs...(used to be 3, but I was smart enough to drop one), I really have gotten lost in the mix. Communication or I like to say Speaking your truth is key. OUr needs are just as imp as everyone else's in our life. We are also showing our kids the imp of taking care of ourselves. I agree being present Candice and being in the moment is so important to establish intimacy and great communication. I also think that we have to be a friend to ourselves..we all know how critical we are of ourselves..Let's try to be our very best cheerleader..and acknowledge all the amazing things we do on a daily basis. The universe has given my hubby a chance to be home with the kids this past summer...and although scarey at first due to financal concerns, it has been the nicest summer we've had...I see the bond between my hubby and our 3 kids blossoming..Since I have a bit of control issues about how I like things run..I have learned to let go of those demands, and allow my hubby to do it his way, which is refreshing for the kids. So, I believe in self nurturance and affirming our attributes on a daily basis...I still work on the communication..but I know that being inthe moment with another person makes it very sacred...Thanks for your blog candi...I guess I had alot to say:)mbeckerthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09695853122585277385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692958826098214952.post-90963672796352210332010-09-18T20:15:25.899-04:002010-09-18T20:15:25.899-04:00I don't think you're that far off from mos...I don't think you're that far off from most of us. We can be great listeners and still not be great at communicating. Sometimes communicating with the one we love seems hardest. I think in fact when there is an abundance of love, it makes it a bit harder if you are thinking, "I don't want to upset this person, or argue". <br />Maybe being a good listener means that we can be a good listener because it's easier to hear someone else's thoughts than try to deal with our own. Maybe our own are too scattered to put into words. <br />Maybe we're scared that our own thoughts won't be heard or validated. If we listen so well, is there an expectancy others should listen to us that well? If there is, maybe that creates a bit of the fear, if we're not accepted as much as we accept others, that could hurt. <br />Regardless of what it maybe that holds communication back, it is always be the best policy to say what you want to say, even if it means you have o come back to the conversation- meaning, if you are unable at the time to say what you need to say, once your thoughts are clearer, come back to it and say, "here's what I was trying to say earlier..." it's never too late to communicate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692958826098214952.post-60395471437124378252010-09-17T19:33:58.013-04:002010-09-17T19:33:58.013-04:00I too, am a great listener, always have been. A s...I too, am a great listener, always have been. A skill I honed when I was a bartender. I have little patience when I realize the person I am trying to 'communicate' with is thinking more about how they are going to respond, more than listening to what I am saying. Communication is a 2 way street, with both people stating their wants and needs. When one of the two feels they are being attacked, they go on the defense and communication stops. This is when it turns into ' I am right, you are wrong, and this is why...'grumpahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10343685906689924031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692958826098214952.post-77596928810831676322010-09-16T21:34:59.740-04:002010-09-16T21:34:59.740-04:00What did you say Candi, I was watching the tele a...What did you say Candi, I was watching the tele as I thought you were reading your blog to me! Just a little joke to get your attention. I tend to be quite an inroverted extrovert. I hate to be around people at times and then, when I'm alone, I crave company of outhers. It is interesting to reflect on Delphine's teacher in action, she looked each of her students in the eye and shuck their hand good morning. Eye contact is important, but so is willingness to want to listen, and pay attention! I love your style Candi! Great blog!Redstarwizardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02012979291086844724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692958826098214952.post-3263017597605060232010-09-16T18:59:21.012-04:002010-09-16T18:59:21.012-04:00I am convinced we all walk around with a giant bli...I am convinced we all walk around with a giant blind spot that others can absolutely see but we cannot. I have never been able to articulate what I want. It scares me to death. I am really good at sales but I cannot ask for what I want personally.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2692958826098214952.post-7729576989086231922010-09-16T17:00:35.940-04:002010-09-16T17:00:35.940-04:00(Trying again to post response)
I am horrible at c...(Trying again to post response)<br />I am horrible at communication. I know some people think I am superficial. I just tend to stay with "light conversation" because I am just not good at expressing all the stuff in my brain. I am constantly thinking. I tend to observe non-verbal communication. If I familiar with someone I can see in their face or even slight change in their demeanor what they are feeling.<br />I do not look people in the eye when in a conversation. I am very aware and really trying to fix it. I think it comes from "LOOK AT ME when I'm talking to you!" Yeah, I wasn't being talked to I was being yelled at because I was getting busted for something. It means confrontation to me... (see flight response).<br />I agree that we all could use a refresher course in communication, and for some of us, a first course.<br />Another great blog Mrs. Chief! ;)Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019562060252268854noreply@blogger.com